BROKEN PROMISE

Mr. Computers promised to cover the cost of a gadget I have been dying to purchase. I covered the story here. End month is here, I reminded him two days ago, trying not to sound pushy. I have already brought up the issue about 3times before, and it had started to feel a bit odd; as though I’m nagging. But anyway, what’s a sugar daddy for? He said he would send me the money yesterday afternoon. I even placed an order for the gadget. So far nothing, not even a text him from him. Looks like I’ll need to sort out myself, meaning I’m done with him. In a way I kind of saw this coming. I’m not as surprised, just disappointed.
Officially, I’m opening the gates to a new SD. Time to go back to a couple of emails I had not responded to and see how it goes. Wish me luck! 🙂

SENDING NUDE PICS

So today Mr Computers was in a chatty mood. Been a while since that happened. He even made jokes that were terribly stale but, hey, imagining him saying those jokes in person was actually hilarious.

Then he asked for a nude photo of me. That was really surprising from him. I’ve sent a nude photo once to a guy I was dating but made him delete it, or so he said he did. Now that I think about it….., anyway that is not the point.

I told Mr Computers that I cannot send him the photo out of self respect. We haven’t had any intimacy. He was really cool about it and said that in a weird way, it made him happy.

Lesson learnt; if your sugar daddy cannot get over the fact that you do not want to send him a nude photo, leave him. he doesn’t care about your feelings. If you really are special to the man, he should understand your point of view and not push you to do something you do not want to do. Never send nude photos unless you totally trust the man and you have met a couple of times, that’s if you are OK with that.

I prefer leaving room for curiosity so that when we actually get intimate, it will be a thrill for him, which I believe will bring him running back to me next time. A little teasing does not hurt, like sending your photo dressed in a really sexy dress, revealing a bit of cleavage and thighs. Anyway, that’s just my opinion.

WHERE IS YOU GENUINE SUGAR DADDY??

Earlier this month I told Mr. Computers of a gadget I have been dying to purchase. He said he would give me the money to buy it and asked me the cost. He went ahead to suggest that I get it insured after purchase since it is an expensive gadget in case anything happened. Told him I’ll consider doing so though the thought has never occurred to me.
Today I reminded him about it since he hadn’t told me when to expect the money. He said I wait till end month. I was really disappointed because I was expecting it to be sooner than that. I had even told him I plan to have the gadget before end month.
This is where I ask, where is you genuine sugar daddy? A genuinely wealthy SD.. I do not possess the quality of patience and would prefer an SD who can provide me the cash when I need it. I thought the moment an SD chooses his SB, he approximates how much he might be needed to spend, that way he can provide the money when it is needed. Or am I wrong?

MR. ROMANTIC

This one did not start well. He kept me waiting for so long. I should have left the minute I considered doing so but he talked me into waiting for him because he was stuck in traffic. We finally met 75min after the scheduled time.
We did coffee and got to know each other. He has not been in a sugar relationship and he did not seem to know exactly what is expected of him although he asked what I’m looking for in a mature man.
Long story short, I hated that he kept me waiting as much as I enjoyed his company. He is looking for an emotional connection, and doesn’t seem to want to commit to footing bills. He talked of getting out of town for a night or two; I would like that but what’s the point of having a sugar dad who will take me on a vacation with him and not pay my rent? I don’t want to relax for a day then come back to find my problems unsolved.
He’s out.

KENYAN ONLINE SUGAR DATING SERVICES

I ended up trying out the Kenyan online dating services where you are required to pay sh400-500 for a hook up. Curiosity got the better part of me. I picked out one that appeared to have been in the business for some time; actually they claimed to be running the business for 4yrs now. They had a face book page and a Blog with quite a number of potentials to choose from. By the time I was at entries for Feb this year, I had had enough of looking around and knew who I wanted.
I had to make a mobile transfer of sh400, then another sh50 for withdrawal, SMH! Later I was sent for a messaging talking of how they don’t have business permits because apparently permits of such kind in Kenya do not exist but their business is genuine and a hook up is guaranteed. So these guys rarely pick calls, I’m not sure why. The next day I got the phone number for the man I wanted, tried calling but it sounded like I have been blocked. Imagine! I tried reversing the transfer but it was a bit too late for that. Today I realized they have pulled down their fan page and I couldn’t find their Blog.
So yea, I do not trust those people. My calls have been going unanswered for the past couple of days, as well as my texts and email. Unless someone proves me wrong, I advise against those online services. Stick to those Kenyan sites that are free.
Share your experience if you have tried such a service..

MR. COMPUTERS

The date went better than expected. He is smaller than he appeared on his online photo, but I like him in person. At some point he kept going on and on about how far he’s come but I managed to keep smiling and compliment his achievements. I mean, got to feed a man’s ego, right?
He has been in a sugar relationship before, which sounded to have had a nasty end. He wouldn’t tell me about it though. He said that he’s now more careful with younger ladies and that he was positive about me. Of course he offered to foot bills that I needed help with.
The only thing that puts me off about Mr. Computer is his mother tongue ascent. It is not so heavy but at times it takes me a while to understand what he is saying. Anyway, he is sweet, caring and a gentleman. He is also happy to share tips on running a successful business.

FIRST TWO POTENTIAL SUGARDADS

Last week I got to chat with a couple of men but settled to meet two who sounded promising. The first is 44yrs, with a family and runs his company. For purposes of privacy, I will call him Mr. Computer because his career revolves around IT. The second man is 40yrs, also married and works in a local organization. I’ll name him Mr. Romantic because he sounded charming. Though, I don’t have a positive feeling about him.

Anyway I’ll be meeting Mr. Computer today afternoon, then Mr. Romantic tomorrow or the day after in the evening. Will see how it goes.

Sugar Goals

So I have been doing my homework. Gone through a couple of blogs from other sugar babies, and picked up a few things. Today I am listing my goals. Basically, it is what I expect from the sugar relationship:

1.  Wardrobe makeover
2. New gadget
3. A vacation
4. Business connections

I plan to accomplish these goals before the end of the year.

Why Sugar Life?

I have been raised in a humble family, at least I got to be bought for the basics with no financial issues arising. But I crave the finer things in life. My parents do not approve of such a lifestyle but I prefer things my way. I have tried doing my own thing and earned some extra cash to buy that really nice shoe or dress i like. It was going OK till i realized that it isn’t going to be sustainable.

Also, I have been with two older men. At that time I hadn’t realized the value of a mature man other than them having the know how to handle a lady with respect. But I don’t regret that wasted opportunity. Everyday is a lesson. And life has more opportunities out there, you just need to explore them.

I’m in a career that requires a lot of networking. So becoming a sugar baby is a big boost for me. This is not a quick-cash opportunity, it is a life long plan.

Slow Beginnings

I have been setting up accounts on various sugar dating sites, but nothing concrete so far. Most of the men i have been chatting with sound kinda shady, some have really shady photos.I also don’t understand how a 20sth year old man is signing up as a sugar daddy! Really?? Unless you are a special case but those I have seen do not pass as a special case, at all.

Seems the big names in the online sugar dating industry don’t have a base as such in Kenya. That’s sad. The trend here is creating a page, or a blog then charging people for hookups, otherwise you send your photo to be displayed and wait for that call. I wonder if you get charged for that.. Honestly, I don’t trust these sort of arrangement. I’ve tried one and it is not looking good. The lady doesn’t pick calls, I have no idea why, so it’s constantly back and forth messaging. AAAaargh!

Anyway, I am not losing hope. The search is still on.